I can remember in college talking to my girlfriends and hearing about the only one of them who was confident and comfortable enough to go down on her boyfriend. I remember being appalled. Not only because it was totally not allowed, but also there was a major “ick” factor. What was interesting was that she was also one of the most faithful women in my friend group. She was a Eucharistic Minister, went on retreats, was part of a small faith group, sang in the choir, did *al

“I still feel guilty when I masturbate,” he told me. He was a 50-some-odd year old man, married, with college age kids, who had stopped practicing the Catholic faith he was raised with at least two decades earlier. Does this surprise you? It surprised me when I first started this work, now it’s common. I’ve learned that almost everyone walks around with some amount of lingering sexual shame. The likelihood that you’re walking around with lingering sexual shame increases d

Perhaps you're wondering exactly what it is I'm trying to accomplish... Obviously, you don’t just wake up one day and decide, the Catholic Church needs to change how they talk about sexuality, and I’m someone who can do that. It was a process. Years of trial and error. Years of being told by priests, church administrators, and church members, that what I’m doing is misguided at best and heretical at worst. The truth is: I’m bringing the church’s sexual teachings into conve